surgery went ok, at least they didn't kill me. there wasn't enough bone to steal from my hip so i have some dead guys bone too. they decided to replace the metal plate while they were in there, so i have three sets of staples, one from harvesting bone, one from removing and replacing screws, and one where they fixed the hole in my femur. they also cut an artery and had to get a vascular surgen to sew it up. so it was a long surgery, about 5 hours, and it hurt about 10 tiimes as much as i thought it would, but i am starting to feel better now.
i found out there was more nerves damaged in my right arm, so that explains why it is so useless. just got to wait a few more months to see if it will heal itself.